And this is exactly why ‘white pride’ will always be racist, but ‘black pride’ is not.
What would have once sounded like a far-fetched feminist fantasy – women forming the majority of a parliament – is a reality in one country in the world, Rwanda.
In fact, women are making gains throughout all of Africa, but these achievements have been met with a loud silence from the western feminist movement.
SLURS CANNOT BE “RECLAIMED” AS INSULTS GODDAMMIT.
I am so fucking sick of this.
I have run into a disturbing amount of people lately who honestly believe that the concept of reclamation encompasses being able to use slurs that have been used against you as insults against other people, even others who have been targeted by the slur as well. This supposedly operates under the principle that it’s not oppressive if someone uses a slur that’s been used against them for any reason at all.
Well, it may not be oppressive per se but it ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT constitute a Get Out Of Being An Asshole Free card. That kind of logic just sounds to me like if you’re someone that has been punched in the face a lot, it gives you the right to punch other people who have been punched a lot and then when someone asks you “What the fuck was that for??” you say “Well, it didn’t hurt as much as if someone who’s never been punched had punched you, right?” THIS DOES NOT WORK THAT WAY.
Not to mention that this concept completely ignores intersectionality because it would supposedly allow that out of two people who share a marginalization (say it’s being gay and in reference to heterosexist slurs) that someone who’s a cis white able-bodied gay guy would have free rein to call a gay MOC, or a disabled or trans gay guy, such a slur. That could easily be seen as a “double slur” laced with extra betrayal because you’d be in a minority within the minority and even the use of a common slur could be used to mark you as lesser.
And I would also argue that since slurs are things that can trigger PTSD and panic attacks, among other things, that their use as insults by anyone can in fact be oppressive.
I’ve had to unfollow people because of this. And if you subscribe to the notion that being in an oppressed group gives you free rein to use slurs targeted at that group for any reason whatsoever, GET THE FUCK OFF MY BLOG.
This is something I think about a lot, and I agree very much with this post.
I think a lot of people don’t understand the difference between reclaiming a slur (where the slur comes to be used in an empowering way and takes on a new neutral or positive meaning) and perpetuating harm using a slur (where a member of X group uses Y slur to abuse or demean other members of X group - when X has been historically oppressed by Y slur).
The latter is not okay. Not at all and I’m also getting sick of seeing this on my dash.
N.B. There are times, however, where chastising someone for this behaviour is inappropriate. And this usually needs to be considered in terms of intersecting oppressions. For example: a WoC is calling out a white woman for saying something racist and, during the course of said call-out, tells the white woman she is a ‘bitch’. Yes, this is a sexist slur. But it is not acceptable for the white woman to derail the call-out and start acting as if she is now the victim. To continue with the punching analogy used above, I guess the exception is in circumstances of self-defence.
(Hopefully this makes sense, my brain isn’t very cooperative right now.)