Things that are okay to laugh at: rapists. Things that are never okay to laugh at: rape.
How do you find a vegan at a dinner party?
Don’t worry, they’ll let you know.
How do you find a meat-eater at a party? Don’t worry, they’ll be everywhere, BBQing dead animals and stuffing them in their mouths and saying ‘omg vegans are so preachy’.
I found the vegan.
Everything Men’s Rights Activists label as “female privilege” is really patriarchy backfiring against men.
The gender-specific rule that men shouldn’t hit women is caused by the misogynistic belief that women are fragile.
The belief that men can’t be raped is caused by the belief that men always want sex and the belief that men must always be strong, which are the same gender norms that enable men to sexually harass women.
The belief that all men are rapists is caused by the misogynistic belief that a woman who is quick to trust a man is asking for it.
The belief that statutory rape is worse with an older man and a younger woman than with an older woman and a younger man is caused by the misogynistic belief that society must protect female virginity.
Custody favoring the mother is caused by the misogynistic belief that taking care of the kids is a woman’s job.
The fact that only men can be drafted is caused by the misogynistic belief that women are too weak for combat. Also, most feminists are against the draft.
The belief that the man must pay for the date is caused by the misogynistic belief that women are helpless and need men to do everything for them, and it’s often used as a way to guilt-trip her into having sex.
Feminists don’t support any of those. All of those are caused by patriarchy. Men’s Rights Activists can stop blaming feminists for the problems that patriarchy causes.
|—||Jada Pinkett Smith|
Some statistics/facts concerning the prison industrial complex:
"US female soldiers in Iraq are more likely to be raped by a fellow soldier than killed by an enemy. Believe and support survivors of military sexual trauma."
A Spoonful of Sugar: in which Miss Mary Poppins and Ms Valerie Frizzle unexpectedly sit next to each other in Developmental Psychology, and the rest writes itself.
“I’m a touchy-feely person.”
Some people say this a lot. Some of them are really, really scary and dangerous people.
Sometimes what people mean by this is “I’m the kind of person who is allowed to touch and feel people, and I don’t have to consider whether it is welcome”.
Sometimes this is physical. Sometimes it means people feel entitled to hugs. Or to stroke someone’s hand or hair. Or they think routine interpersonal touch is a basic necessity, and that the mainstream-expected physical boundaries are bad, and that they can make things better by unilaterally violating them and touching people.
Sometimes it’s emotional. Sometimes it means that they want to be an intimate part of people’s emotional experience. Sometimes it means they unilaterally share personal things, and act as though that creates a reciprocal obligation. Or they think that our society is too emotionally closed off, and by unilaterally imposing an intimate emotional tone to their interactions, they are making things better.
Sometimes people who do this think that people who don’t like this are just repressed. Or, worse, sometimes they think that people who don’t like this don’t actually exist, and that everyone likes it, deep down. That’s really dangerous, especially when people do this to people they have power over. (Which is really, really common, especially with people who work with children, especially with people who work with non-verbal children.)
It’s really important to interact with the person you’re actually with. You can’t do this by constructing an imaginary person you see as the Real Them, and by acting as though they want what the Real Them would want. You have to interact with the actual person, and respect their actual communication. Which means, if they don’t want you touching and feeling them, physically or emotionally, you need to take that seriously and back off.
Intimacy is a beautiful and important thing, but forced fake touchy-feely intimacy is a horrible thing.
If you want to be touchy-feely, touch and feel people who want that from you, and keep your hands and emotional feelers off others.